Claire Hughes Johnson writes in her book, Scaling People, about a moment early on in her time at Stripe when an Irish journalist shouted to her, “You’re the lady! You’re the lady with the lads!”
Hughes Johnson, who joined Stripe in 2014 as the payments startup’s chief operating officer, works closely with two of the most iconic Silicon Valley entrepreneurs, Patrick and John Collison. During her tenure as COO, she helped bring her management know-how from Google and experience working for Sheryl Sandberg to help organize the growing company.
I invited Hughes Johnson on the Newcomer podcast to talk about her time at Stripe and the management lessons that she has put down on paper in Scaling People, which she published this year. Toward the end of our conversation, Hughes Johnson turned the tables on me and gave me some coaching.
Our conversation circles around two sections of her book, in particular. We talked about giving feedback and honesty in a corporate setting. She talked about her principle that managers should encourage people to “say the thing you cannot say.”
She writes,
How often have you sat in a meeting and mused, “It really feels like there’s something that isn’t being talked about right now”? Or had a conversation with a report and thought, “I think they’re getting upset about what I’m saying”? Or caught yourself filtering everything you say? These questions prompt a bigger one: Why don’t managers say what’s actually on their minds?
People often think that good management is about having a lot of filters, and for good reason. There’s a lot that might feel risky to say, or that feels like a personal judgment. But be wary of over-filtering. Fine-tuning your filters and pushing yourself to name your observation in a constructive way means you’ll be able to have a more honest conversation about what’s going on. Then you can all start working on a solution in earnest.
Hughes Johnson concludes scaling people with a chapter titled, “You.” It looks at how managers manage themselves.
She writes,
The more senior you become, the more creative reality gets at finding ways to beat you up every day. You will have days—sometimes many in a row—when your highest performer is threatening to quit, a top customer has just informed you that they’re moving to a competitor, you’re leading a company-wide meeting the next day and haven’t had time to prepare, and the cross-functional project you kicked off last week is already going off the rails. Many people don’t have the psychological strength and resilience to keep going. In The Hard Thing About Hard Things, Ben Horowitz calls this “the struggle,” when “nothing is easy and nothing feels right.”
To make it all work, you have to learn how to manage your time and energy. First, diagnose what gives and takes your energy. The easiest way to do this is to map out your good and bad days and track what activities add to and detract from your energy. An easy tactic is to keep check marks on your calendar of good days and bad days. After a month, look at all the good days and all the bad days, and then the good weeks and bad weeks, and see what trends jump out. When I did this exercise, I found that the weeks when I had more than one work event that kept me from having dinner with my kids and getting them to bed were bad weeks. I then resolved to restrict my work-related late nights to once a week—a personal guideline that I occasionally break, but not often. Your goal is to study what combination of time spent on which activities creates your best performance, then determine where you need to set boundaries to preserve your strongest self.
Coming up as a reporter, I was always resistant to “management” and “leadership” advice. Those words made me think of Dale Carnegie books and cash-grab leadership seminars. But as I’ve started to build Newcomer into more of a company (we’ve got a full-time chief of staff, three summer interns, and am looking to hire a full-time reporter), I’ve come around to the idea that being intentional about how you spend your time and how you work with people are essential skills, worthy of serious reflection.
These days, Hughes Johnson is a corporate officer and advisor at Stripe. She’s spending a lot of her time working with individual managers and offering coaching inside the company. So we got a taste of how Stripe’s management guru thinks.
I really enjoyed our conversation. Give it a listen.
Highlighted Excerpts
The transcript has been edited for clarity.
On Good Management.
Claire Hughes Johnson: One of the topics that came to mind during my interview with John and Patrick was the importance of good management and smart operating structures. I emphasized that we shouldn’t be reinventing the wheel. I believe in fundamentally sound management practices, rather than creating an entirely new way of thinking about performance feedback.
I paused and told them, “You guys have to be with me on this. We might start with a very basic version of performance feedback, but it’s better to do that than to let the perfect be the enemy of the good.” What’s wrong with doing everything from first principles? At some point, it becomes exhausting, and you might not be the best at constructing the system.
I also discussed the permanence of management structures and hierarchies that have been in place for hundreds of years. There have been attempts to innovate, such as holacracy, and workers’ expectations have changed. I’m not suggesting we do things the same way we did 100 years ago, but we must pay attention to history.
Patrick became particularly interested in this topic and started reading studies on management practices. He found academic research and data that showed countries with good management education and practices tend to have better economic outcomes. He agreed, saying, “Yeah, I think you’re right. Let’s put some fundamentals in place.”
Unfortunately, some young companies want to reinvent more than they should. They may have invented a great product and feel compelled to create new ways to manage people. But I believe this can be a mistake, and it’s better to rely on proven methods and structures.
Young companies, especially, should practice giving feedback.
Claire Hughes Johnson: The book has a lot of stuff on operating structures. It’s really important to have goals and metrics that everyone recognizes as the company's most important goals, and to review them publicly with everyone. The mission should be clearly articulated, along with the direction for the next three to five years. Clear feedback structures are vital. Ideally, feedback should be continuous, but in young companies, many managers are new to this process, so they’re not giving as much feedback. Therefore, you actually have to build more structures for it, which may seem counterintuitive. Some companies might say, “Oh, we’re just running after this prize, and we can’t be distracted by that.” But I respond, “Well, actually, it’s the most important thing, because you aren’t used to doing it.”
How do you think about feedback? How direct or brutal should the feedback be?
Claire Hughes Johnson: When I first started working at Google, I was shocked at how direct the engineers were, saying things like, “That’s a terrible idea.” It was not the world I had been in working in consulting or government. At first, I got defensive, but I’ve come to love it.
However, when I talk about feedback, there’s a level of directness that I don’t think is productive. If it’s so direct that it feels like an attack, people stop listening and think about survival. It becomes a matter of adapting or dying.
I have an operating principle that I talk about in the book: “Say the thing you think you cannot say.” I try to push myself and others to be open and willing to put things on the table without creating an attack response. For example, I might say to a leadership team member at Stripe, “From my seat, 10,000-20,000 feet away, I have a couple of things I’m worried about.” Then we can have an interesting conversation, looking at the problem together.
As a leader, it’s also about reading the room, even virtually. What’s the body language? Are people making eye contact? Are there weird comments in the doc? My job is to get everyone else’s opinion on the table first. Sometimes I'll say, “It feels like there's something we’re not saying. It feels tense in here.” Then I might call on someone to break through to the real thing.
There are different dynamics at play, such as power dynamics and layering issues. Sometimes you can tell the team isn’t behind their leader. Other times, there’s friction within the team or with another team. And sometimes, it's a matter of seeing the forest for the trees, stepping back to look at the bigger picture. Is this actually a good product? Why are we not seeing more user adoption? Why have we only grown 10% when the rest of the products are growing 40%? As a leader, your job is to have that bigger picture in mind and to ask, “Is this the right strategy?” Sometimes, you have to zoom out and say, “We’re having the wrong conversation, folks.”
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Hey, it's Eric Newcomer. Welcome to the Newcomer Podcast.
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This week we have Claire Hughes Johnson, the former Chief
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Operating Officer at Stripe and now the corporate officer there.
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She's got a book, Scaling People.
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It's all about management and tech and beyond.
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We get into her leadership principles and she gives me some
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coaching. I get vulnerable.
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So that was fun. Stick around to the end to hear
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that. I really enjoyed the
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conversation. Give it a listen.
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Claire, Welcome to the newcomer podcast.
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Thanks so much for joining me. Thank you, Eric.
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It's great to be on. I've been digging through
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scaling people. You're sort of book on
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management and giving very tactical advice to founders and
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it's hard not to read it with a really sort of self absorbed
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lens. Now that I'm off on my own, you
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know you end the book with the sort of a section on you and
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it's sort of all about how to sort of run a company.
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Some of the portions are more focused on larger companies.
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But excited to talk through some of what you outline in the book
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and get into Stripe a little bit and I think that would be a fun
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episode. Hey, if you have some personal
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anecdotes you want to share. We could dive right into hate
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study. Before we get into that, I mean,
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what motivated you to write Scaling People in the first
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place? Really it was Patrick and John
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Collison. I did not have on a bucket list
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to write a book, which is ironic cuz my family, my mother's
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written a book, my brother, my sister-in-law, but not on my
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list. But they both felt the Stripe
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founders both felt that, And of course, they're incredibly well
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read their autodid acts. And that there was not a book.
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They founded a company when they were teenagers, I don't know if
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and sold it. And then they founded Stripe
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when they were basically college age.
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But that there was not a book that was sort of tactical and
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practical enough on management and company building.
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And I had to agree that as Stripe was scaling, all three of
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us were meeting with a lot of our users, right.
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And a lot of stripes, especially early customers, were high
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growth Internet companies themselves.
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And we'd end up in these dinners with other, you know, founders,
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CEO's, CEO's. And when we sort of thought the
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topic of the dinner might be their billing and payments
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infrastructure, the topic of the dinner often ended up being
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really organizational scaling questions.
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You know, how often does your leadership team meet?
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Who's on the leadership team? How do you do, like, business
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reviews? What are your key metrics?
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How did you choose them? Do you have a performance rating
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system? And so John would be like, Dude,
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say we need Claire in a box. So I think that this became
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that, I think you talked in the book about like the mission
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being sort of expanding the GDP of the Internet, right.
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And in some ways you think if you have a service, you know,
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oh, they'll ask about, yeah, like how to use Stripe better or
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whatever. But really it's building a
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business on the Internet that they're very oriented around and
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ideally they never have to think about Stripe, you know, at all,
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and they want to know everything else.
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No, I think if you think about the origin story of the Founders
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too, I mean they grew up in. Rural Ireland.
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I think the Internet was their source of information and
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innovation and they had to teach themselves about it and they're
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looking to make that knowledge accessible.
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You're right in the beginning of the acknowledgement you talk
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about sort of a scene with you and John.
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I mean, can you share that quickly?
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I feel like it gives a good sense of for your experience.
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That's right. Yeah.
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One of my first speaking engagements for Stripe, which of
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course everyone wanted to prep me for very carefully because I
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was going to get up and talk about payments and about the
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company. And I had kind of kind of just
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joined was for this conference that used to be in Ireland, in
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Dublin, Ireland and then moved, but it was in Ireland then
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called Money 20. And I think I underestimated the
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celebrity that John and Patrick had already achieved.
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It is a relatively small country, Ireland.
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And I was standing outside the building of the conference with
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some other folks from Stripe and I think we had some Stripe like
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materials with us. So it's probably easy to connect
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whoever walking by and a journalist, an Irish journalist,
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walked by and pointed from like, you know, many feet away, You
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you're the lady, you're the lady with the lads.
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And I guess the news of my hiring had made it to Ireland
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and then I was definitely, inextricably linked to these two
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Irish lads from there on. And it is actually very fun to
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be in Ireland with both of the collisions.
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I don't know if it's fun for them, but it is like you're in
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some celebrity entourage and I thought it was a real sort of
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eye opener for me on how much of the radar screen we were already
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on even then, which was early. I mean, you know, you'd sort of
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establish yourself at Google. Is that the right way to say it?
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And you're coming from Google directly to Stripe, right?
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What made you consider sort of the job at Stripe or like how
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did that come to pass I? Mean I've been at Google for 10
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years what I almost 11 years when I joined Stripe.
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So I'd had a long career there. And I I will say, I think I was
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fortunate that somehow in that career I really got a chance to
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do sort of operations, sales, revenue and some general
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management even product D stuff in the end.
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And I've gotten on some not actual but virtual list of, hey,
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this is a leader, this is an executive who might be
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interesting as a CEO candidate. And I'm quite sure I owe a lot
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of that also to Sheryl Sandberg, who I think put my name out
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there after she left. Did you work?
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I worked. Very closely with Cheryl Prior.
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I joined her team originally and then I was basically in her
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staff at various times and when she left I ultimately inherited
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about half of her org and so. Was carrying on her legacy, I
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think internally in Google. But anyway, I was on this list.
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So Eric, I have to say, I'd actually had the chance to meet
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a lot of founders of growth stage companies because I had
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started to think for my own development, my own career in
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the last few years at Google. I was like, is this, am I going
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to stay here forever? And I took some of those
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meetings and I got quite close on potentially taking a role and
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I didn't actually like make in the end, choose to leave and I'd
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almost given up. And thought, you know what I'm
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going to do? I'm going to finish some work on
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self driving cars. I might take a leave of absence.
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I've really got to find myself whatever that and I was
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introduced to Patrick, very tech thing to say.
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I'm going to go work on self driving cars.
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Yeah, I was just so weird. Like, right, Pop out.
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Whatever. The cutting edge.
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Yeah. Anyway, sorry, go ahead.
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Yeah. Well, working on self driving
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cars was actually strategic for me in that the role was very CEO
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like role, smaller team earlier stage it all made sense in my.
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Development head, But yes, that did sound very Silicon Valley.
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But anyway, I met Patrick. I actually initially refused to
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take the meeting cuz I said Oh my gosh, payments and no I'm not
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looking really. Wow.
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Yeah, that's a big joke within Stripe that I'm pretty reluctant
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payments person, but I did end up meeting him for a breakfast
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and in another Silicon Valley kind of story we ended up
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talking for hours and it was great and which then turned into
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a multi month sort of. Mutual interview process, but
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sorry, long winded answer. Why no.
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It's fascinating. Why?
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Did I end up joining? So I ended up joining for
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reasons, some of which were criteria I had started to
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realize matter to me, but one the founders like.
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I mean, this is like I'm taking instead of investment money.
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This is my time as an investment.
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You really got to believe these are the founders to get behind.
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And I did very much. And I did.
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What stage was it? Strike when I joined was about
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160 people and had you know millions of revenue not where it
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is today. When I start talking to Patrick,
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I think it was about 60 people. So pretty early, I mean it was
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you know still already four or five years old because they hung
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around 10 to 20 people for a while and then we're really
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scaling them. So this year, 2014, I joined at
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the end of 2014 where they I think started the year about 40.
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And I met him about 60 and the year ended we were I think 180.
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No, it was a big year that year, 2014 for Stripe.
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But point is the founders and you know I still today believe
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in them and and their ambition, their vision, their ability to
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listen and collaborate, but also to lead and to learn.
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The second was I did really care about being in a company.
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Where the mission and you mentioned it increased the GDP
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of the Internet, but really the potential impact of the product
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was meaningful and Stripe is really an infrastructure product
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and I had spent some years at Google as you alluded to you
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know selling advertising against search results and website
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results and that is important. It is an engine of commerce for
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the Internet. But it didn't feel as
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meaningful, like I really wanted to be part of economic
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development in a certain way, and this is.
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I realized B2B is really my jam and Stripe was like in the thick
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of really important B2B infrastructure.
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How did the, you know, the second choice end up doing?
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Did you have similarly good judgment on the other companies
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you were? No one has asked me that.
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I think that those who know would say yes.
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I am not gonna get beyond that. But I walked away from actually.
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I would say in one case very much yes right call and another
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very called a not go, you're not go.
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Like, I just didn't see the company.
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Well, one, I didn't think I had the right chemistry with the
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leaders. The other was I didn't see them
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going. Like you kind of want to have a
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vision where you're like, this is where this company is today,
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what's its product, where's the market?
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But you want to see an extension of that.
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Like, where does that go if you can't tell yourself that story?
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It's hard to imagine, but straight why did I join the
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founders? The mission, the V to V
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infrastructure and then the people that I met, the culture.
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I could see myself working there just like anyone joins anything
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you want to be able to see yourself working there.
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And the last reason was I could see that I was going to learn
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and have an impact because there was stuff they needed that I
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knew how to do, but also really learn some new skills for
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myself. I'm pretty ambitious person in
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terms of my own journey. I mean, you know, you'll
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literally hear, I mean maybe a little less these days, but for
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a while, you know, I think, you know, when I covered Uber all
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the time people would say, oh, we need like a Sheryl Sandberg
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type or it's sort of you have this sort of story of like, you
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know, the young founders who haven't managed.
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I mean you talk about this some in scaling people.
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You know just like a founder hasn't necessarily been in a
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company sort of that big before. But then sort of what you're
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talking about in sort of making the job decision where you're
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coming at a point where they sort of need a little help maybe
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to get to the next stage. So you know, a lot of pressure,
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I don't know, I guess specifically like in the stripe
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case like what was that interaction like coming in and
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trying to be this you know, Chief Operating Officer for
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founders very much associated with the company you know?
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Yeah, I mean, I think obviously, I know Cheryl, but I was never
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inside Facebook, so I can't really speak to that construct.
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But I actually think my experience with Stripe was quite
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different. My understanding is Cheryl came
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in and at the time really she and Mark divided a lot of stuff
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and she sort of ran her pieces and plugged into his staff and
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he ran, you know, Product and Stripe.
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In my interview process and in my beginning in the role was
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very clear that this was going to be a collaboration of a team.
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Yeah. So I was not going to just
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independently run off with a bunch of Go solve the business.
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Go run the business, right. That was not, this was something
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I mean that I admired and was drawn to Patrick and John.
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Yeah, they've not managed a big company before, but very strong,
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good judgment, good intuition, lots of opinion about what it
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was going to take to build not just the product as you alluded
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to, but also the company. There was no decision that I
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felt I made that was major. In sort of the org building side
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of Stripe or the process building where they weren't
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involved and I welcome that. I learned from them.
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They're both in different ways, again, just sort of ahead of
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their time and their ability to mature in that way.
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It was much more mutual and I thrive in more team
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environments, collaborative environments.
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And I also appreciated that I was included by the way in a lot
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of decisions about the and Stripe wasn't some of these
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companies startups where investors talk about it.
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It's like they wish they could change the CEO but they can't So
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they need to bring in a CEO. Whereas obviously with Stripe,
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the calls are sort of among the most admired founders in the
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world, and. I made the right choice, right
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instead of a fixer upper. One of the things that's sort of
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interesting in the book is that you pull from non Silicon
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Valley, non tech sort of case studies in company design.
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And I wanted to dig into that because Stripe and the Collisons
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seem to embody it to me like Silicon Valley sort of.
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So how is that received and sort of where do you think tech can
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sort of learn the most from old garters, other industries?
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No, it was really actually an important part of the early
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stage of the book development was a conversation I actually
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had with Patrick where we talked about how fundamental the book
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was going to be. I was like you know, this book
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should be. So we were talking you know the
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target is a little bit the sort of higher growth tech company
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reader, but we're like it should be so fundamental that it
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applies pretty broadly And we came up with this idea which is
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I should interview leaders from really different.
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Like industries, so, you know, healthcare, academia or
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nonprofit. I have Dominique Crenn, who's
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Michelin star chef, who's got restaurants in San Francisco and
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Zanny Mitten Betos, who's the editor in chief of the
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Economist. Like, I really interviewed this
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really wide range and that came early as a concept, which was
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like, let's validate some of what I at the abstraction level,
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I'm talking about management and leadership.
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And that actually applies pretty broadly.
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I do think that early on at Stripe, I'll just reflect on
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your point about tech, which is there is this challenge that I
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think because a lot of Silicon Valley companies are innovating
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in the product they've developed.
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They become kind of rightly, a little addicted to innovating
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and they think, well, should I just innovate a lot of other
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things, like how you run a company and one of my, I don't
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know. The word coming to my mind is
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talk tracks. But things that I talked to John
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and Patrick about while I was interviewing, yeah, was that I
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believed in management. Like fundamentally good
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management and just smart operating structures that are
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not reinventing the wheel. You guys gotta actually be with
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me here. I don't think we should.
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Build an entirely new way of thinking about performance
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feedback, and we may do a very vanilla version of it early on,
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But better to do that then let the perfect be the enemy of the
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good. That was the phrase I was gonna
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throw. Or try to do a first principle.
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Yeah, I mean it's positively always.
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I mean, what's wrong with doing everything from first
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principles? At some point it just becomes, I
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assume, like exhausting and you might not be the best at
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constructing the system. Yeah, it also becomes like look
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management. Structures, hierarchies of men
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have been in place for hundreds of years, Eric.
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And like there's like Holacracy, like there's been a few attempts
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to innovate. And I do think the workforce,
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the expectations of workers have changed.
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So I'm not saying we're doing what we did 100 years ago in the
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same way, but like you got to pay attention to that.
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And actually Patrick, as we started talking being Patrick
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got really interested and started reading studies on
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management and management practices.
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And there's actually pretty good academic research and data on
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countries, by the way, that have good management education and
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management practices, having better economic outcomes.
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And so he was like, yeah, I think you're right, you know,
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like, let's just put some fundamentals in place.
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But I unfortunately, I do think some young companies wanna
00:16:29
reinvent more than they should. And that's because they've
00:16:32
invented maybe a great product and they're like one.
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And I invent great ways to work what we're like, just to give
00:16:38
people sort of a couple like just like key straightforward
00:16:41
things where you weren't reinventing the wheel that it's
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like, OK, we should implement this or yeah, we're just.
00:16:46
Yeah, I mean I think they're, I mean the book has a lot of stuff
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on operating structures like I think it's really important to
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have goals and metrics that everyone knows are the most
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important metrics for a company and review them publicly with
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everyone, right and have articulated your mission and
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then you know where are you going over the next three to
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five years. I think it's really important to
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have. Clear feedback structures, like
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here's a routine of when you can expect to get feedback.
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Ideally it's happening more continuously, but young
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companies, especially a lot of management, it's pretty new to
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people, so they're not giving as much feedback.
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So you have to build in more structures for it, which is sort
00:17:21
of counterintuitive. Companies are like, oh, we're
00:17:24
just running after this prize and you know, we can't be
00:17:26
distracted by that. I'm like, well, actually the
00:17:28
most important thing, because you aren't used to doing it and
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one point of pushback on sort of management structure is intact
00:17:35
is if you're going for exponential growth, the company
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just keeps changing so much that there's no time and that many of
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those structures are set up for companies that are the same size
00:17:47
and doing the same tasks. You're in an erf.
00:17:49
Yeah, I think that's a very legitimate argument, to a point.
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It's legitimate when. I mean, I talk a lot in the book
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about how do you get the level of weight of structure
00:18:00
appropriate to the stage of company.
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And where a lot of companies fall over is they either do
00:18:05
nothing or they put too heavy a structure in a young
00:18:09
organization. And that's like ridiculous.
00:18:11
People are going to hate it. It's going to feel bureaucratic.
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You've got people in tools and checklists.
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And like, I've actually talked to some founders because now I
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talked to a lot of founders, I invest in company.
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Some of them are so thoughtful and rigorous.
00:18:23
They're like. Running the company like it's a
00:18:25
2000 person company, wow, no, I'm back.
00:18:28
Super lightweight, get back. So it you can be on either side
00:18:32
of that continuum. But I think more mature
00:18:34
companies do have more stable and probably deep processes
00:18:41
where what I'm articulating are pretty simple and could be
00:18:45
executed pretty quickly. And I think the mistake.
00:18:48
That you see get made that gives all this a bad rap, is like sort
00:18:52
of bad processes over heavy defense.
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I have something in the book I call a defensive process, which
00:18:57
is something went wrong. So let's put a bunch of checks
00:19:00
in place to stop the thing from happening as opposed to let's
00:19:04
put things in place that give us momentum, which is what you
00:19:07
want. You want actually things that
00:19:09
remove friction at the appropriate level for the stage
00:19:12
of company. Do you have a sense of like what
00:19:15
companies in tech have you think like the best organizational
00:19:19
structures or I don't know how much you surveyed that or if you
00:19:22
have? You know, I really didn't.
00:19:24
And I think this question can stymie me because as you said,
00:19:29
companies change a lot. And you know what changes them
00:19:32
the most, Eric, is their leadership.
00:19:34
And so the most interesting companies in tech are companies.
00:19:37
Like for example, looking at Microsoft under Satya Nadella is
00:19:41
one of the most interesting things to me as a student of
00:19:45
business and tech because. He has just dramatically shifted
00:19:50
the trajectory of that company and he did so actually fairly
00:19:54
quickly in the first three to five years and then has built
00:19:57
upon those very decisive actions.
00:20:01
But I think that's an example of leadership mattering so much.
00:20:06
So like when I say operating structures or org structures,
00:20:09
like you'll really catch me saying, well, who's running it
00:20:11
right now and what do they believe in?
00:20:13
Because often. Tech companies, again, because
00:20:16
they're younger. Even Microsoft isn't that old,
00:20:18
right? Like, are really reflections of
00:20:21
the founders and reflections of the CEO and their cultural
00:20:25
beliefs, their actors and behaviors.
00:20:27
And so my answer ends up being who are leaders I admire, right?
00:20:31
And I don't know if I want to get into some kind of Sophie's
00:20:33
Choice conversation, especially if they're Stripe customers.
00:20:36
I could get in trouble, right? But really, would say to anyone
00:20:39
who's thinking from the outside, really look for that.
00:20:43
What is your focus at Stripe these days?
00:20:45
What's your role today? Well, today I'm a corporate
00:20:49
officer and advisor, which is appropriately and big.
00:20:51
Extremely vague, very hard to get.
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Do I get to do whatever is needed in a different way than
00:20:57
Daytoday operating. But what it really looks like
00:21:00
is, yes, advice to founders. The executive team.
00:21:03
I do help with some leadership hiring and onboarding coaching
00:21:07
of leaders who would like it. I work with a couple of teams
00:21:10
more closely, meaning I sort of review their work with it.
00:21:13
I'm just sort of like an extra coach in addition to their
00:21:16
leader of their org. And I've done some projects.
00:21:19
You know, in some cases it's looking at, you know, maybe
00:21:21
there's a function. We evolved over time and we want
00:21:24
to go back and say, hey, did we make the right choices?
00:21:26
Is this team as effective as it could be?
00:21:28
I still obviously talk to customers.
00:21:30
Stripes users mean a lot to me. I have relationships.
00:21:33
I'm a Stripe user, Eric. I want to thank you.
00:21:35
I tried to get you to give me some feedback and it was two
00:21:38
more was what I took away, especially on taxes.
00:21:41
Yeah, yeah, like get feedback. Like I get feedback and I also
00:21:45
do sessions with earlier stage companies cuz I think you can
00:21:48
tell I love them. And I think there's a lot of
00:21:50
influence and impact to be had when you can get with a founder
00:21:53
who's really just shaping their culture and their operations.
00:21:57
So that's what I do. How do you think about like
00:21:59
feedback I guess in the corporate world?
00:22:01
Like I feel like that's a big sort of piece of the book both
00:22:05
in your sort of with direct reports and then now.
00:22:08
So when you're, I don't know, SWAT team coming in, when they
00:22:11
identify, I guess, an issue, like, are you giving unvarnished
00:22:14
feedback? Like brutal?
00:22:15
Like on what scale of like the whole truth?
00:22:18
Like, do you think about when giving somebody feedback?
00:22:21
Yeah, I think, I mean, when I first started working at Google
00:22:24
and this will probably resonate for you because I know you're a
00:22:27
journalist and you've talked to me, I was shocked at how direct
00:22:31
the engineers in particular were like, really critical and
00:22:34
direct. Like, that's a terrible idea.
00:22:37
And here's why, you know, and it was not the world I had been in
00:22:41
working in consulting or at in government.
00:22:44
I'd worked in politics, in government.
00:22:46
And at first I sort of got defensive and felt like, am I
00:22:49
going to make it? But I've come to kind of love
00:22:52
it. But when I do talk about
00:22:53
feedback, there is a certain level of directness that I don't
00:22:56
think is productive because look, we all, if you've studied
00:23:01
brain development, you know, we have this prefrontal cortex and
00:23:04
it's making a decision on are we, you know, going to, like,
00:23:08
should be, fight or flee. Someone has attacked us and the
00:23:11
minute you attack someone close to the bone like this is their
00:23:15
work. This seems like a judgment on
00:23:17
them or their team. They're going to actually stop
00:23:20
listening to you and just be thinking about survival if.
00:23:23
It's so direct that they feel like it's, yeah, no, it becomes
00:23:25
the thing about survival and who can hear anything and have a
00:23:29
directive conversation when they're wondering if they're
00:23:31
going to die, right? And so that I'm not so
00:23:33
interested in that kind of feedback, but what I do, I have
00:23:36
an operating principle for myself that I talk about in the
00:23:39
book, which is say, the thing you think you cannot say.
00:23:42
And So what I'm trying to push the reader and push the thinking
00:23:44
on for myself and for anyone is there is a way not to be so
00:23:49
direct that you create an attack response but be open and willing
00:23:56
to put stuff on the table that he might have filtered out.
00:24:00
Like for me I things I would have filtered out 20 years ago.
00:24:03
I'm trying to put that topic out, whether that's with an
00:24:06
individual about something I'm observing that I think they
00:24:08
could be better at or whether it's a, you know, as you said,
00:24:11
maybe I have an observation for Stripe and I get on a call with
00:24:14
a member of the leadership team and I say, but I don't say, hey,
00:24:17
I think you're getting this wrong.
00:24:19
I say, you know what I'm, you know, from my seat which now
00:24:22
it's Stripe is, you know, 10 thousand feet away.
00:24:25
I have a couple things I'm worried about that.
00:24:28
I'll say that. And they'll say, well, OK, well,
00:24:31
you know, they're intrigued. They're like, well, what do you
00:24:33
mean? And then I'll say, well, why
00:24:34
don't you tell me what you are? You know, like, maybe I'm off,
00:24:37
maybe you like, then we cannot get in this interesting
00:24:39
conversation where we're both sort of looking at the problem
00:24:41
together and everything. I'm worried about X&Y.
00:24:43
And I'm like, interesting. I also have X on my list.
00:24:46
What a wing about it. Can I help?
00:24:49
But you know, you're trying to enter into it as a partner as
00:24:51
opposed to someone in opposition, right?
00:24:53
The other is just like you're, you know, you're in a room,
00:24:56
whether it's a virtual room or an actual room.
00:24:58
You might find this, Eric with your small team and there's
00:25:01
something that's not being said right?
00:25:04
Like, this happens. Like maybe someone, maybe you've
00:25:07
produced a piece of content and like, there's an aspect to it
00:25:12
that isn't your level of quality that you want or expect.
00:25:15
And you got to be sort of reading the room even virtually.
00:25:20
Like, what are, you know, what's the body language?
00:25:22
What's the tone? Are people making eye contact?
00:25:24
Are people shifting around? Right.
00:25:26
Are there comments in the doc? They're kind of weird, right.
00:25:29
You have people comment in a doc.
00:25:31
Like, I'm not sure I understand this.
00:25:33
You know, you're like, what? What does that mean?
00:25:35
And you're my job, I think as a leader is 1 to get everyone
00:25:38
else's opinion on the table first.
00:25:39
Because if I give my opinion, usually the conversation ends.
00:25:43
But the other is to sort of say, hey, it feels like there's
00:25:46
something we're not saying in the meeting.
00:25:49
And sometimes I'll say I don't know what it is, but feels kind
00:25:53
of tense in here and people are going what like how is she.
00:25:58
But you know, then if I'm comfortable, if the person looks
00:26:00
comfortable, I'd call on some, I'd say, Eric, give me an
00:26:03
hypothesis. What is the thing we're not
00:26:05
talking about what you know. And often you breakthrough in
00:26:10
that meeting in that moment to the real thing, like there's
00:26:14
always, like, you know, often is.
00:26:15
There an example or what type it's?
00:26:17
I mean, I can think of the example you sort of where it's
00:26:19
just like this isn't good, but people like, I just don't think
00:26:21
this is good. Like there's a team that's
00:26:22
uncomfortable with their work product and the problem is their
00:26:25
managers in the room, right. And they don't want to be
00:26:28
selling out their manager, right, right.
00:26:30
And you can kind of read it and what you're trying to do is get
00:26:33
someone to go there. So you don't have to be the one
00:26:36
saying I don't think this work product like but.
00:26:39
So it can be a layering problem too.
00:26:41
Like you're above the manager, the man, they don't want to.
00:26:44
There's a power dynamics issue. There's a layering issue for the
00:26:47
folks in the room. It's often though, these things
00:26:50
where you can tell the team isn't behind their leader,
00:26:52
right? That's one form of this.
00:26:54
Actually, this would be a great new section of the book.
00:26:56
Like, what are these like frameworks?
00:26:58
So one is that one is a thing going on.
00:27:01
Usually that is a friction. So it's with another team or
00:27:04
it's inter team. You're like, huh, Why does this
00:27:07
feel like not everybody agrees with the thing that was written
00:27:10
in this document? And that's not necessarily a we
00:27:13
don't agree with our manager. That's more a we have
00:27:16
unresolved, you know, enmity potentially.
00:27:20
Or we feel like we're in conflict with one another
00:27:22
because we don't agree that we're doing the right thing as a
00:27:25
team, right. Or this other team is blocking
00:27:28
us, but we don't want to throw them under the bus.
00:27:30
So we're sort of talking around it like there's this sort of
00:27:32
what's the friction thing. So there's one, I don't agree
00:27:35
with my manager, other is a friction thing.
00:27:38
I think there's often just also forest for the trees where
00:27:45
you're in a business review or you're reviewing work product
00:27:48
and you're like, yeah, good, thanks.
00:27:50
Metrics look fine. And then you step back and
00:27:53
you're like, OK, metrics look fine this month relative to last
00:27:59
month. But if I look at the last year,
00:28:03
the growth rate, I mean these are just basic stuff, but it
00:28:05
happens. You'll be like too focused on
00:28:08
what you're doing right now and not think is this actually a
00:28:11
good product? Why are we not seeing more user
00:28:14
adoption? Like, why have we only grown 10%
00:28:16
when the rest of the products are growing 40%, right.
00:28:19
And like you that your job as the leader especially is to have
00:28:23
that bigger picture in mind or maybe even bigger, but is this
00:28:26
the right strategy, Right. But I think that is another
00:28:29
category of zooming out with everyone and saying we're having
00:28:33
the wrong conversation, folks. It sounds like part of what
00:28:37
you're getting at is like the challenge for senior leaders
00:28:40
when you're not always interacting with all the
00:28:42
company, to actually have authentic conversations to
00:28:46
really talk about the real stuff.
00:28:48
That's right. You know, I don't want to you
00:28:50
know, as a Bloomberg which is like a big company.
00:28:53
And in some ways I've come to appreciate more of the you know
00:28:56
process type stuff that I didn't at the time.
00:29:00
I mean I think reporters in particular can be not you know
00:29:03
very cat like bat, bat not organization people necessarily
00:29:08
hard to manage or convince to believe in a lot of the process
00:29:12
stuff can understand it more now trying to build a very small.
00:29:15
Company. But there was a level of like, I
00:29:18
don't know, they would send these memos out that I feel like
00:29:21
a lot of people would roll their eyes at.
00:29:24
And like, you know, they were so disconnected from, you know, how
00:29:27
do you make sure besides this sort of like trying to be really
00:29:30
present in the meeting So you can set a strategy, you can lay
00:29:34
out sort of values. But if like, I don't know, the
00:29:37
bottom level and the middle level are like, oh, I think
00:29:40
we're doing the actual work and we know what the actual work is
00:29:43
and like, it's disconnected from.
00:29:45
Sort of the message, like, how do you find alignment there in a
00:29:49
big company? Well, first of all, thank you
00:29:51
for sharing. You actually shared a bunch of
00:29:53
things I want to reflect on. So one is, as you now have your
00:29:56
own organization, you're coming to appreciate some of the
00:29:58
challenges of management and leadership.
00:30:00
This happens to me when people leave Stripe, they sometimes
00:30:02
write to me. They're like, Oh my gosh, you
00:30:04
were doing all these things right.
00:30:05
Anyway, so 1/2, I think that there is a reluctance,
00:30:11
especially if someone, I mean, journalists tend to be
00:30:13
independent operators often. And like it's very hard to be
00:30:17
leaders of that type. And often so do engineers, Like,
00:30:20
they want to do their own work and like kind of get out of my
00:30:22
way. But the real thing is you're
00:30:24
sharing is like being empathetic.
00:30:26
Like there's an experience that a lot of employees have with
00:30:29
their leadership, especially in bigger organizations, which is,
00:30:32
do you even know what, like I experience?
00:30:34
Like, you're sending me this memo that is so far beyond my
00:30:38
daytoday reality that I find it like hard to sort of take you
00:30:42
seriously, right. And that happens in so many
00:30:45
places. And I think we just don't.
00:30:48
It's sort of how you end up with a lot of the memes about
00:30:50
corporate America, right. And so let's talk about that.
00:30:53
And I think that's a product of disconnection between leaders
00:30:58
and the actual work daytoday reality of the people who work
00:31:02
somewhere. And you know, I, I advocate in
00:31:05
the book to some degree, but I think I probably could celebrate
00:31:08
it even more that I think that is not the way modern
00:31:13
organizations can afford to be run.
00:31:15
I mean, first of all, and you know this, Eric, there's so
00:31:17
many, whether it's internal in the company or external,
00:31:22
formerly known as Twitter or, you know, there's apps like
00:31:25
Blind. What There's a lot of ways to
00:31:27
hear feedback about what's going on in your organization, whether
00:31:30
you like it or not, out in the social world, social media
00:31:34
world. There's also, ideally, internal
00:31:36
forums you've created, but there's something that's just
00:31:39
basic, which is, why don't, you know, have in your schedule as a
00:31:42
leader, Let's like have a conversation, have a lunch with
00:31:45
a bunch of folks in a different division and ask how it's going.
00:31:48
Or I, the Stripe founders, do a great thing, even like today,
00:31:51
they'll write something up that they're going to send to the
00:31:53
whole company and they will shop it to different people in the
00:31:59
company. Like almost a sampling, right?
00:32:00
Like a core sample and say was this good?
00:32:04
Like give me feedback on the thing cuz think of all the
00:32:06
minutes of people's time you're gonna spend reading that
00:32:09
communication like it's gonna cost hours of employee time.
00:32:13
Make sure it's freaking good, right?
00:32:16
And they always they are great writers.
00:32:18
Their letters are great. I mean and there is that sort of
00:32:21
I don't know I don't know if Paul Graham gets credit where he
00:32:23
would let all the people sort of read it and say here's who read
00:32:26
it and I feel like they take some of that's become I think
00:32:30
that's a fair. Tech thing, yeah, yeah.
00:32:33
But why does it have to be a tech thing?
00:32:35
Right, Right. Why don't the Bloomberg, I mean,
00:32:37
gosh, it's a media outlet. I know.
00:32:39
Why don't they have some people workshop the content and edit
00:32:42
it, you know? I mean, I mean one challenge is
00:32:44
just, you know, if it's like if you're like the good student and
00:32:49
you get the teachers like some people aren't like doing XY&ZI,
00:32:53
feel like as like a attentive student, I would still read it
00:32:56
onto myself because it's like I'm really dialed into what the
00:32:59
teachers saying. But then they would be giving
00:33:02
you this negative feedback that didn't apply to you.
00:33:04
And so I feel like all company communication can be a real
00:33:08
challenge, especially if it's like, oh, negative, because it's
00:33:11
like, what am I guilty of this, You know, you send me, it's my
00:33:14
impact. That's it.
00:33:15
Like, yeah, why aren't you all filing your expense for, right?
00:33:18
Right, but but on, you know, for a newsroom, it could be like,
00:33:20
oh, we need to write like shorter stories, but like, we
00:33:23
had a magazine, you know, Anyway, sorry.
00:33:25
Not gotten very specific to Bloomberg, but yeah, no.
00:33:28
But I think one you're again showing empathy because this is
00:33:31
hard. Some of these messages are not
00:33:33
easy and they're not really mass messages that you have to send
00:33:36
them masks because you can't be like targeted on, right.
00:33:39
And people get told their stories are too long, right?
00:33:41
But I think that my advice still stands though, which is like,
00:33:45
what is your objective with this?
00:33:46
And when you shop it around to someone, are you meeting your
00:33:48
objective? And that's not that hard to suss
00:33:50
out. But it is true that I say this
00:33:54
in the book, like any channel of communication in a company is
00:33:58
never universally loved, right? Because we're all consumers.
00:34:02
You like to read. I like to hear.
00:34:04
I want to watch a video. I want to read like a bite sized
00:34:08
headline. I want to read a treatise.
00:34:10
You know, like no one's going to be happy with anything as a
00:34:13
leader that you do in one particular channel and you have
00:34:17
to just live with that. That doesn't mean you shouldn't
00:34:20
still try to make it the best that it can be, but it's hard
00:34:23
this. One just sort of came into my
00:34:25
head, but it feels like a key sort of leadership question.
00:34:30
The moment, you know, like with Facebook and Mark Zuckerberg,
00:34:33
there's been a lot of not wanting managers, managing
00:34:36
managers. And this idea that Facebook had
00:34:39
created like a culture where, you know, you want to get as
00:34:43
many people below you as possible.
00:34:45
And that sort of success coming from a company that you know had
00:34:49
at one point tried to celebrate, you know, this mythical like.
00:34:52
10X engineer who like, is just like such a great solo
00:34:55
contributor. Why fast and break things,
00:34:57
right? Very flat.
00:34:58
How do you think about that? I've never been inside of
00:35:01
Facebook, but I have a view on a phenomenon I've seen in a few
00:35:05
places, which is especially when you're in a high growth mode and
00:35:10
you've hired a lot of really high achieving people who are
00:35:14
ambitious and who want to keep score, and a weird thing happens
00:35:18
inside companies. I don't think it's just tech
00:35:20
which is how many people in your org becomes a metric of success
00:35:26
in your score, which is actually not the metric.
00:35:29
Like the metric should be your output, it should be the ROI of
00:35:32
the individuals you have. But that's harder to measure.
00:35:36
So everyone starts obsessing about the input, which is well,
00:35:39
in the last budget cycle did I get 100 new people and more
00:35:43
layers in my org. And it becomes this self
00:35:47
fulfilling, terrible cycle of adding what I think become, you
00:35:53
know, it can end up being too many people, too many layers of
00:35:57
management, not enough people doing the work, which is the
00:36:00
founder's nightmare, right. Like, I mean and mine when I was
00:36:03
CEO, But you see how it happens, which is you're just growing
00:36:07
quickly and people are sort of excited about their growth and
00:36:09
then they start marking their progress by like accumulating
00:36:12
more humans and it's just not actually that great because.
00:36:16
And this is where I talk about operating structures like are
00:36:18
you measuring like why do you need all those people and what
00:36:23
is the work outcome? What is the metric of success?
00:36:26
It is not how many humans are in work.
00:36:28
It is, yeah, revenue. But here's other problem is, say
00:36:31
you've got a great business model and your revenue is
00:36:33
exploding. You kind of get comfortable with
00:36:35
the number of people also exploding.
00:36:37
That's not necessarily smart, especially in tech where you get
00:36:40
so much leverage right, from the tech product as opposed to a
00:36:43
human manufacturing product. I once interviewed a CEO that I
00:36:48
loved this idea and I didn't quite implement it at Stripe in
00:36:51
the way I wish I had, which is when teams would come to him for
00:36:54
more resources, he would send in this little SWAT team like I
00:36:59
think he called it the optimizers.
00:37:01
Like they would come in and they'd say okay.
00:37:02
Let me just understand what is everyone in the team do today
00:37:07
and this is very lean, you know, 6 Sigma step.
00:37:10
Do you have an opportunity to automate some of what you're
00:37:12
doing today or improve your process to get more efficient?
00:37:16
And then do you understand like the measure of outcome of all of
00:37:20
each individual and additional person enough.
00:37:23
They do basically a consulting project before they would agree
00:37:26
to add to the headcount. And I'm sure the people by the
00:37:28
way, who received that project were pretty unhappy because they
00:37:31
were like I told you, I need more people, leave me alone.
00:37:33
But the concept is a good one, which is how do you guard
00:37:36
against like inflation essentially because then it
00:37:40
really impacts the culture. I think what Mark Zuckerberg to
00:37:43
me from reading it is railing against is this is not a culture
00:37:47
that is valuing the right thing. Nor are we moving quickly
00:37:51
because we've created too many layers.
00:37:53
What is the difference between like coaching and therapy?
00:37:56
You know, even in the book you talk a little bit about, you
00:38:00
know how you, I think you said you started to work out more,
00:38:02
but you saw that as like part of your work task and there is a
00:38:05
degree. I feel similarly.
00:38:07
You know there there is a degree, especially as a founder
00:38:11
or someone, where literally everything I'm.
00:38:13
Thinking about is, you know, I always want to be improving the
00:38:15
company. The sort of line between Eric's
00:38:20
personal psychology and Eric's works.
00:38:22
I like it. It feels like a made-up sort of
00:38:25
different. And obviously in a bigger
00:38:26
company you'll have this extra layer of problem with real
00:38:29
professional boundaries and things you probably can't sort
00:38:32
of get into even if they would help.
00:38:34
So anyway, that's the morass. Like how do you think about
00:38:37
separating? Coaching and sort of therapy.
00:38:41
Now it is a great question. And there's another one, Eric,
00:38:43
that I wish I'd expounded on more in the book.
00:38:46
But I'll tell you that I mean, you'll hear me use the word
00:38:49
continuum a lot, cuz I'm not like a binary thinker.
00:38:51
I'm more of a nuance thinker. And so I always use continuums.
00:38:54
But in the continuum of a management job, the first part
00:38:58
of the continuum, like where everyone should be able to sit
00:39:01
as a manager is I have to get execution done.
00:39:04
There are tasks, they are assigned to my team and to me.
00:39:08
I am accountable. I must organize the work.
00:39:10
Who's doing the work, how we're going to measure it, how we're
00:39:12
going to report on it, who we need to sort of involve to get
00:39:16
it done. And it's like project
00:39:17
management, right? There's a whole piece of
00:39:19
management, which is really, how do I get from A to B.
00:39:22
And then here's the challenge. In order to do that, you have to
00:39:26
organize humans and human work. And in order to get humans at
00:39:29
their best capacity, like let's get more output from this team,
00:39:33
you need to coach them. And so a lot of the book focuses
00:39:36
on how do I identify the kinds of talent I have, what their
00:39:40
motivators are, what will get the best work out of them, and
00:39:44
then how do I open up the dialogue where I'm coaching
00:39:46
them? Yes, I hope, by the way,
00:39:48
reinforcing what they do well, which we sometimes forget to do
00:39:51
as managers. But also saying, hey, you know,
00:39:54
I wonder if, you know, you know that particular report you you
00:39:58
publish every few weeks could be a faster process.
00:40:01
Like what do you think? And like getting the person to
00:40:03
realize they might be like obsessing about some aspects of
00:40:06
the report that they should just cut or whatever it is, But you
00:40:09
want to coach them. And I think what happens when
00:40:11
you're coaching is it either leans toward help you with this
00:40:15
task, like maybe you're doing too much analysis for the
00:40:18
report, or as you just alluded to, ends up being a little bit
00:40:22
more psychological. I think some of the bigger
00:40:25
management challenges are when an individual isn't confident in
00:40:28
their work product. Maybe they have low self esteem,
00:40:31
maybe they're not comfortable speaking in the meeting and
00:40:35
therefore they're not contributing to the team and
00:40:38
they're not comfortable. It's like not that their work is
00:40:40
bad, it's that they are just like individually struggling.
00:40:44
And so I don't think it's appropriate for a manager to
00:40:46
ever think they're a therapist. But I do think you end up on
00:40:49
that boundary of what can we do to help you improve your
00:40:53
confidence? And a little bit like, where's
00:40:55
this coming from, which is when you get into this.
00:40:58
Well, you know my mother used to criticize me like and so I think
00:41:02
isn't Will you? Go there though or if they So I
00:41:05
would like, look, if someone offers that to I'm never gonna
00:41:07
go there. I'm never gonna say, do you
00:41:09
think there's a pattern for childhood, right.
00:41:11
That is playing out in the team right now, right like that, but
00:41:15
which? May very well be the case, yeah.
00:41:16
Oh by the way, is 100% the case. It's certainly the case for me,
00:41:20
but I'm never going to go there and ask about their childhood
00:41:24
patterns. I'm going to say, here's what
00:41:26
I'm observing, How can I help you be better?
00:41:28
But if they go there and they say, well, I've always had this
00:41:30
issue with criticism because of X, I'm going to thank them.
00:41:34
I'm going to say, wow, that's a great insight, Great for me to
00:41:37
know. Thank you for sharing it and
00:41:40
kind of steer the conversations. Like, if there's something you
00:41:44
want to work on that I hope you are, you know, that sounds like
00:41:48
something you could work on. But like, let me think about my
00:41:51
job, which is to help you with this existing, where you're
00:41:54
going back on the continuum to the task.
00:41:56
You're like, the way it's manifesting for me and for the
00:41:59
team is that you're not getting the work done quickly enough.
00:42:04
And how do I support you to do that?
00:42:07
And I have, believe me, I've been there.
00:42:09
I've actually had to say to some people, like, wow, feels like
00:42:12
the conversation you really want to have is more of a
00:42:14
conversation about, you know, like digging into your mental
00:42:17
health and your status. And let me tell you, here's
00:42:20
resources we have as a company or ideally, or here's a place
00:42:24
you might go to find those resources because it is not
00:42:26
appropriate to. I mean, I'm not trained as a
00:42:29
therapist, but I mean ultimately the Golden rule.
00:42:32
It's funny because the golden Rule kind of cuts both ways for
00:42:34
management. On the one hand, treat people as
00:42:37
you would like to be treated for sure.
00:42:39
So if someone shares something really vulnerable, be empathetic
00:42:42
and thank them and try to be a human and say wow that sounds
00:42:46
hard, how can I help you get what you need?
00:42:49
But on the other hand, you do have to manage different people
00:42:51
differently and there will be people who have like a
00:42:53
boundaries issue, right? And your job and.
00:42:55
They might break a boundary and then still try to criticize you
00:42:59
for the boundaries. Yes, you also, I mean now you're
00:43:02
getting into there can also just be problematic like you know,
00:43:05
like legally if you start to have conversations that just
00:43:09
don't feel appropriate you. Mentioned, sort of.
00:43:11
A manager where, you know, it felt like they were having very
00:43:14
vulnerable conversations with people a lot.
00:43:16
Or what was the situation there? Yeah, I worked with an
00:43:19
individual, not for very long. I'll tell you who really prided
00:43:23
themselves on the fact that a lot of people in their
00:43:27
one-on-one sessions would end up crying.
00:43:30
And I thought this was like super weird.
00:43:32
And I said to them, I was like, you know it that's, I mean, that
00:43:35
does happen. By the way people cry sometimes.
00:43:38
They're frustrated. They're tired.
00:43:39
They're anxious. You know you.
00:43:41
Talk about getting a top review one.
00:43:43
Yeah. I talked in the book about a
00:43:44
time when I cried in my one-on-one because I realized I
00:43:46
was overwhelmed with my job and my life.
00:43:49
I was a new mom. It was really hard.
00:43:51
So it's totally normal, but it's not that frequent, right?
00:43:55
And the way that this person would talk, it was like at least
00:43:57
a few times a week, someone just.
00:43:59
And I think what was going on was that this person was on the
00:44:03
wrong end of the continuum. They thought their job was
00:44:06
coaching into therapy. Like I would be like coaching
00:44:09
into execution is my view of the job.
00:44:12
And this person was coaching into therapy and thinking that
00:44:15
was helping. And maybe in some cases it did.
00:44:18
I mean, I wasn't in the room. This is the challenge with
00:44:20
management. You're not in the room with the
00:44:22
other manager and their direct report.
00:44:24
But I ended up sort of giving them, I actually, we went out to
00:44:28
dinner and I gave them some feedback where I said, you know,
00:44:31
I feel like you might actually be making because I also heard
00:44:34
some feedback. I was like, you might be making
00:44:35
people uncomfortable, right. Because it's like you're pushing
00:44:38
them emotionally, right. And is that really what you
00:44:41
think? And they, to their credit were
00:44:43
like, wow, I mean, I don't, But I think their view of management
00:44:45
of mine were just different. And as I said, we didn't end up
00:44:49
working together for very long. And there's a reason for that.
00:44:51
Let's just say that. Well, let's.
00:44:54
Do a little coaching. I'm happy to be vulnerable.
00:44:56
I don't know how easy it'll be to do over zoom, but like, I
00:44:59
mean it's funny just to give you a starting point from something
00:45:02
you said, I once got a approach by, you know, a coach at a
00:45:07
conference just sort of introduce she was introducing
00:45:10
herself and she's like, do you have like impostor syndrome?
00:45:13
And I said no. But like you said, I do think
00:45:16
that impostor syndrome is one of the ones that I feel like comes
00:45:21
up again and again and there. I feel like I suffer almost from
00:45:25
sort of the perfectionism, you know, where it's like, oh, I
00:45:27
think my stories should be amazing.
00:45:30
And then so if I don't think I'm in sort of that's in grass, but
00:45:35
then I'm like, oh, I should do other things.
00:45:38
And when I used to be just like sort of a pure reporter, it was
00:45:42
like, at least it was always like the thing that I could do
00:45:45
to be productive was to be a reporter and so.
00:45:48
Maybe I would sort of procrastinate or whatever, but
00:45:50
it was still always clear what the North Star is.
00:45:53
Now I'm in this interesting situation where there are lots
00:45:56
of legitimately productive things that I can do that like
00:46:00
are other people's real jobs that I'm starting to appreciate,
00:46:03
like what those are, You know, like I hosted a conference, You
00:46:07
know, I'm like trying to hire. If anybody wants to work for a
00:46:10
newcomer, I'd like a reporter, you know?
00:46:11
And so there are lots of things that I can do that are genuinely
00:46:14
productive. I don't necessarily give myself
00:46:17
credit for, I don't know, but like, how do you.
00:46:19
Yeah, where can you lead me on that?
00:46:21
Or that's a starting point at least.
00:46:22
Yeah. I mean, I think that, So just
00:46:24
reflecting back, I think you're describing a journey that a lot
00:46:26
of people go on when they become leaders, which is as an
00:46:30
individual reporter, you knew what reporting was and what your
00:46:33
job was and you felt comfortable you could do it.
00:46:36
As you became maybe more of a writer and someone with more
00:46:40
opinion in your reporting, you had to sort of you got a little
00:46:42
more perfectionist because you're like, well, or how do I
00:46:45
define what great is? And you're holding a high bar
00:46:48
for yourself. And now you're talking about a
00:46:50
harder stage even still, which is what my job is, is different
00:46:55
every day. And so at least I knew in those
00:46:58
first two buckets generally what my version of great was and what
00:47:02
I should be doing, even if I couldn't always achieve it.
00:47:05
And maybe I was holding myself to too high a standard which
00:47:08
paralyzed me. Sometimes.
00:47:09
That happens to all of us. Okay.
00:47:12
But now you're in a totally new realm, which is like basically
00:47:15
going from an individual contributor to a manager to a
00:47:17
leader. Yeah, as a leader, there's a lot
00:47:19
of different ways you could spend your time, right?
00:47:21
Like, right, Like, and you could make an argument for, like, I
00:47:25
should host a conference every week.
00:47:26
I should do a story every week. I should interview three people.
00:47:29
Like, I can't. I mean, I'm a little paralyzed
00:47:31
thinking about all your potential paths and you have to
00:47:35
be very self actualized on like what is your form of leadership?
00:47:40
What do you believe your version of this job is?
00:47:44
And no one is going to tell you you're right or wrong, which is
00:47:48
very unstable, right. Doesn't that feel like you feel
00:47:50
a little bit like who do I look to?
00:47:52
I mean, I mean maybe there's some examples in your field that
00:47:55
you can look to and say, well, what do they do?
00:47:58
But I think where I would start is and you know I would do this,
00:48:02
which is when you think about newcomer and your mission, like
00:48:06
what is your vision? What are you trying to achieve
00:48:09
in the long term with the organization that you've
00:48:12
created? Well, I think, you know, I'd
00:48:14
like it to be sort of a real newsroom covering Silicon
00:48:18
Valley, sort of beyond just me. Despite the wonderful name, I
00:48:22
think the thing I struggle with and I'm still figuring out is,
00:48:26
you know, I feel like my readers are very attached to my voice
00:48:31
and I love. Having written a great piece and
00:48:36
like doing that, it requires a lot of focus.
00:48:39
And then at the same time, I feel like I'm very recharged,
00:48:42
like working with people. Like, I think there's a part of
00:48:44
me that's like, I love the sort of the management piece of it.
00:48:47
Oh good. I like working with people.
00:48:49
Like, if anything, I think part of the reason I wanted to be
00:48:51
bigger is like being a solo newsletter writer where you're
00:48:54
just like just yourself is like, I don't know, not my style.
00:48:58
Like I miss sort of The Newsroom, you know, I don't
00:49:01
necessarily want to be. Under the thumb of some editor
00:49:05
anymore. But I wanna recreate that sort
00:49:09
of working with people, and I think that's sort of one of the
00:49:11
appeals of being successful enough that I can afford that.
00:49:16
I also love the conference thing, which is a totally new
00:49:18
thing. And so like a conference, you do
00:49:22
it a couple times, but it's anyway.
00:49:25
But I think what you're articulating is a couple of
00:49:28
layers, which is 1. What is your vision for what
00:49:30
this could be? And actually you have enjoyment
00:49:33
in that vision, which is you're leading beyond yourself to have
00:49:37
people have an impact working in in a more of a newsroom
00:49:39
environment. And you should embrace that and
00:49:43
say, well, that's a completely legitimate vision to have, Eric.
00:49:46
And it means, by the way, less of your voice.
00:49:49
And so you also need a very clear view on I'm going to be
00:49:53
giving up something that may be one of the cornerstones of my
00:49:57
earlier success, which is so much a focus on me, right.
00:50:01
By the way, you don't have to completely give it up.
00:50:03
I think part of what I'm hearing from you is like as a leader,
00:50:06
you need a balance between building the vision and the
00:50:09
team, newsroom environment and reserving space where you get to
00:50:13
continue to be a personality, as it were.
00:50:16
I don't love that word. But you know, someone who's
00:50:18
hosting the conference, the podcast, writing the occasional
00:50:22
story. And I think some of the.
00:50:23
I interviewed Dan Weiss, actually, who's the outgoing CEO
00:50:26
of the Metropolitan Museum of Art of all things.
00:50:29
But one of the most eloquent parts of the interview for me
00:50:31
from him was he had led colleges.
00:50:33
He's leading this huge museum. He's like, if I don't reserve a
00:50:36
certain amount of my own individual work, I fail as a
00:50:39
leader. I'm not energized.
00:50:41
I must preserve that. And he knows that he's like
00:50:44
retiring, right? He's at the end of his career
00:50:46
and he's known that for a long time.
00:50:47
So you've got to listen to yourself.
00:50:49
But I think the hardest thing that I'm hearing from you is
00:50:53
that bridge from where you are today to what you see this could
00:50:56
be and how much you drive people over the bridge and leave some
00:51:02
behind. And that, gosh, leadership is
00:51:05
lonely, right? And I think what you will find
00:51:07
is you make that decision almost every day in how you spend your
00:51:11
time, who you spend it with, what criticisms or requests from
00:51:16
your readers that you listen to and don't listen to.
00:51:19
And a lot of leadership is having a conviction and like
00:51:22
this is what I want. I mean also the freedom you said
00:51:25
you love, the freedom of your your own bot, like you got to
00:51:28
build what you want to build. And sometimes when you have
00:51:30
feedback like this really isn't working, you got to listen to
00:51:33
that. But I I really, I think
00:51:35
ultimately it's the leadership journey.
00:51:38
Part of this is often the hardest one for people for
00:51:40
exactly the reasons you're articulating, which is you have
00:51:43
to define more what success is. Yeah, I mean, I think it can be
00:51:46
hard to. If you make a choice, you're
00:51:51
like, OK, I'm, we're focusing on this.
00:51:55
Well, first of all, to actually do the giving up of other things
00:51:58
like to admit like, oh, if we do this, it means that this and
00:52:02
that are not going to happen. So if you're still sort of
00:52:05
committing yourself to all of it, then there's a lot of room
00:52:08
for being selfcritical. And then even if you do sort of
00:52:11
commit to one vision, but you're like, oh, but I'm going to, I'm
00:52:14
going to try to do this other thing.
00:52:17
It just creates a lot of room, I think, for negativity, even if,
00:52:20
yeah, well, well, you're also saying is you can't keep doing
00:52:23
all the things you have been doing.
00:52:25
And I think leadership failure is not recognizing.
00:52:29
I mean, I always am pushing founders.
00:52:30
I'm like, what are the things that only you can do?
00:52:33
And that list should not be getting longer.
00:52:36
It should be getting shorter. And I would say the same thing
00:52:39
to you, Eric. You're a founder.
00:52:40
Like what can only you do? And how are you making that list
00:52:43
shorter, Not longer. And that means you are giving
00:52:46
some things up. And now if you're giving up too
00:52:50
much and you're reacting to it, that's actually normal.
00:52:52
But you really got to then go back to, well, this is my
00:52:54
vision. I meant to be giving this up and
00:52:56
you kind of have to restart your own motivation cycle.
00:52:59
I mean, you talk somewhere in the book about identifying sort
00:53:05
of cognitively difficult tasks and blocking off like a full
00:53:08
day. That was something that really
00:53:11
resonated with me. I mean, I'm curious it.
00:53:15
This is switching is I think one of the hardest things because
00:53:20
it's especially writing requires so much like real clear
00:53:24
thinking. And so then even if I'm not in
00:53:27
what I feel like is the headspace, sometimes I just need
00:53:30
to start writing. But other times, it's like, how
00:53:33
do you reserve the time to make sure you can sort of think, I
00:53:38
mean the main thing. Yes, there's two things in that
00:53:41
section that you're referring to.
00:53:42
Thank you for being such a close reader.
00:53:44
But one is when I'm avoiding something, when something's not
00:53:48
getting done, I have to stop myself and look at my list and
00:53:51
say, why am I not doing this right?
00:53:53
And sometimes that I'm not confident I can do it and I need
00:53:56
to ask for help. Sometimes I need to delegate it
00:53:58
because I'm never going to get it done because it actually
00:54:00
wasn't that important that I do it.
00:54:02
But often it's that I haven't reserved the space to do it.
00:54:05
Like I got a lock two hours and cut off all the noise and do it,
00:54:09
you know? And I think that's because your
00:54:10
context switching is your cognitive load.
00:54:13
You just like can't concentrate, right?
00:54:15
And So what I recommend and the you chapter of the book is like,
00:54:19
you really need to do your own kind of audit because everyone's
00:54:21
different. Like some people have no problem
00:54:24
blocking off and going deep and sort of writing a long thing and
00:54:28
you know, but I think for you thinking like what are those
00:54:31
tasks that are weighing on me. What do I need to create the
00:54:34
environment where I get it done. And contact switching is the
00:54:37
probably the hardest part of a leadership job because your day
00:54:40
can end up this is the other thing is I think the best
00:54:42
leaders and I'm not good at this by the way, personally are
00:54:45
really disciplined about their time and protecting it and.
00:54:49
I'm getting worse right now. AIDS leaders talk.
00:54:52
Let's jump on the phone. Let's, you know, I'm, I'm the
00:54:54
chaos of, you know, in some ways the universe where it's like
00:54:57
trying to pull people away from their very organized schedules.
00:55:00
Yeah, and they're the Chaos Monkey.
00:55:03
Well, because, you know, reporting like often, it's just
00:55:05
so much better just to like get somebody on the phone right that
00:55:08
moment, then like do all the lid, you know, to try and jump
00:55:11
the line a little bit, which creates, it's sort of a chaotic
00:55:14
practice, obviously, right, Because if it's faster just to
00:55:17
sort of cut the queue. But yeah, but then I'm just
00:55:20
laughing because I'm. I feel bad sometimes.
00:55:23
Yeah, you're the problem. I love it.
00:55:25
Maybe that's the first step. I mean as like if you're the,
00:55:29
like, you know, founder, I'm still uncomfortable with that
00:55:32
title, but how do you know when you're doing enough?
00:55:35
I guess I would think is a sort of very universal question,
00:55:37
right? Like, I feel like when I was a
00:55:39
Bloomberg reporter, I had a sense of, you know, how
00:55:42
productive I was relative to people and felt good about it.
00:55:45
So I know it's like OK, in this sort of comfortable environment,
00:55:48
I can be sort of very. Productive, then It's hard in
00:55:55
this role to judge whether it's like simply I need to be doing
00:55:59
more or if it's just like my understanding of productivity is
00:56:04
so different with all these different tasks.
00:56:07
Yeah, you're asking the hard ones today.
00:56:10
These are the soul searching. I mean I think this is I'm
00:56:15
someone who sort of takes these abstract concepts and try to
00:56:18
make them very tactical. Well, actually my answer is
00:56:20
really pretty tactical, which is if you look again back at like
00:56:25
what are you trying to accomplish and I always think
00:56:26
like in one year, in six months, in three months, in one month,
00:56:30
in one week today and you really because all we have, especially
00:56:34
you and I, we're not ten X engineers as far as I know, all
00:56:38
you really have is your time plus your talent.
00:56:40
And so I really think about like if this is either I have that
00:56:44
list has to be right of what I'm trying to accomplish and it's
00:56:48
usually maybe 80% right, but you know it's roughly right And then
00:56:52
I have to hold myself accountable to scoping it
00:56:56
appropriately. Like I mean literally sitting in
00:56:58
front of me is the list for this week.
00:57:00
I don't know if you can see of it's actually really good this
00:57:03
week. I've got like, I'm at 80% check
00:57:05
marks, but like, these are the most important things for me to
00:57:08
get done this week. And some days I got a lot more
00:57:11
done than others and I had to give myself a break and say, OK,
00:57:14
Wednesday was not as productive as I wanted.
00:57:16
So Thursday. But I really think it's this
00:57:20
balance of holding yourself to the standard of getting the
00:57:23
stuff done, that is achieving the goal and the vision and then
00:57:27
also giving yourself some grace at moments when something is
00:57:31
harder or takes longer. But it sounds like, I mean
00:57:33
you're talking a lot about perfectionism and a high like
00:57:36
the if you were someone who's like I'm really comfortable
00:57:38
working for a few hours and then saying, oh I'm done, you're not.
00:57:41
You know, you have to also know yourself and say I'm someone who
00:57:43
holds a high bar. And if you're pretty like I look
00:57:46
at my late week this week, I'm pretty happy I didn't get
00:57:50
everything done. But I really, you know, got what
00:57:52
I think was right. And it goes also back to being
00:57:56
able to self manage because like you don't have a box anymore I.
00:58:00
Know, it's so funny. I feel like a Bloomberg.
00:58:02
I would be like, oh, I could be so I could do so much more.
00:58:06
If only they managed me right, you know.
00:58:08
And now I'm like, oh, there's it's just all personal sort of
00:58:12
psycho, you know, Like, there's only so much, especially if
00:58:14
you're like already a pretty diligent worker that they're
00:58:16
gonna like come in and like, turn the screws to you to get
00:58:20
even like a little bit more out of you.
00:58:22
It's right, it already turns out It's turns out it's you.
00:58:25
Right, exactly. That's the thing I've learned
00:58:28
the most. That's why the last chapter
00:58:30
called you in my book, it turns out.
00:58:35
This is great. Thank you so much for coming on
00:58:37
the show. I really, it was a pleasure
00:58:39
Eric. Thank you for the great
00:58:40
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00:58:43
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